It has been a tough couple of weeks. Finding out that my sick pay from the company I work for is stopping, not knowing what is going to happen with me financially, it has been an anxiety rollercoaster for me these last days.
But the good thing, is that it has given me some kind of clarity as of what I need to do next. Four years ago, after my “almost successful” suicide attempt, I made plans to end my life in a way that, in my view, would be kind of a less painful way for my family and loved ones. I was going to counselling at the time and they were extremely concerned about me. I changed my mind in the last minute and tried to start thinking positively about my future, reading inspiring books, listening to successful people who accomplished their dreams and even tried to set goals for myself. It all worked out to be absolute trash when I hit rock bottom in October last year, and consequently it led me to be off work from March this year and not been able to go back.
Where I come from, this is a very sad place to be, and it is condemned by society. People with mental illness is nonexistent, part of a different set of people.... LOSERS! I grew up around the people who condemned and criticised these people and now I have become one of the losers myself, making me part of this non wanted kind of human beings that unfortunately exist.
I understand that I am no longer in Venezuela, in the latin environment, but I grew up with this kind of view, and in my mind, this is completely unacceptable. I CANNOT be a burden for my family and my loved ones, and I have put together a plan to make everything easier for everyone.
The other day, I was sat in the balcony of my flat just contemplating the trees, the road, the flowers. One thing I love is spring. It is a sign of a new beginning, everything blossoming and showing a new life. Suddenly I thought “I will not see a spring again” and tears came to my eyes, but this is the best thing for everyone.
One of my objectives is to speak to each and every one of my loved ones and explain that they are not the cause of my current situation. A set of wrong, seemingly insignificant decisions I took in the course of my life led me to suffer this cruel and unforgiving illness. I have tried everything: counselling; CBT; drugs; positive thinking; inspirational audios, but nothing seems to change the way I feel inside me. Some people write, and even ascertain that we have the power to change our circumstances, but what about people like us, people with mental illness that are unable to control their circumstances. God knows that I have an intense desire to change the way I feel, but have tried unsuccessfully for the last year and now I am just giving up.
I have now started to sort things out and sell all the things that are sellable in my house. I want to look for a good home for my cats, Tigre and Mota. I know they are old now and it is hard for them to get along with any other cats, and my mom’s husband would not like them with them, so I will place an ad to start looking for someone to look after them for the rest of their lives. I know Sparky will have no problem, since he gets along pretty well with Ruby, my mom’s cat and they will not mind having him.
I think there is nothing else that I can do. I have tried it all, and even if I feel a little bit better, I will be always faced with the fact that sooner or later I will have a relapse, and I don’t want anybody to go through that. I have done my best, and I am happy with that.